Bake That, Linguist!

I have a male friend who wants to be long-term fwb. (Like long-term.) We are incredibly attracted to each other, but I’m a relationship-focused person. I don’t want to be friends “with benefits.” He knows this, and yet, I’m the one he chases. The question remains why does he want to have sex with me, knowing that I don’t want to have sex with him?

He is single, there are other women who are interested in him. According to him, he isn’t interested in a [romantic] relationship with me (or anyone else for that matter).

We keep repeating the same pattern of having a solid friendship, and then those hormonal feelings creep into our regular interactions. I feel like I’m a crutch for him emotionally or something, because this doesn’t make sense. If you don’t have feelings for your friend, but you are attracted to them and you want to have sex with them, and they are attracted to you, but they don’t want to have sex without the commitment, then why would you still pursue that type of relationship? With that one person and no one else?

I’m confused.

(NOTE: We’ve been friends for several years now. If he isn’t in it for the friendship, then he sure is hanging on for something that’s not going to happen.)

My “love” life is a mess. Why is it that dudes want to have sex with me, some even want to make babies with me—ugh—but don’t want the relationship part? It’s not like I’m planning to get married any time soon, if ever. Is it that difficult to be in a relationship? Am I expecting too much?